Four devastating TRUTHS that determine your success or failure every day

I’m sure you’ve heard people say something like “That person hasn’t got a clue.” And oftentimes they’re right. There are lots of people out there screwing up their success, lives, their careers, and their relationships because they are clueless. They’ve never learned how the world works, so they go bumbling along, making one stupid decision after another.

In particular, there are four devastating TRUTHS that every winner seems to understand and makes the appropriate adjustments to get ahead … despite the challenges they present. By contrast, losers just complain about those devastating truths and, as a result, stay stuck where they are.

Devastating Truth #1: The world is not fair.

As much as we would like it to be otherwise, the world will never be totally 100% fair.

Things will not always go your way, even though you deserved certain outcomes. Everyone will not agree with you, get along with you, or treat you the way you would like to be treated.

So get used to it and get over it.

How do you that? You realize that you’ve only got two choices. One, you can spend countless hours or even years complaining about how unfair the world is, how you’re a victim, and how it doesn’t make any difference what you do, because you’ll never get ahead. That’s the approach losers take.

The second choice is the one that winners take. They’re realistic enough to know that there is a degree of unfairness in every part of life. However, they know they ALWAYS have control over their attitude and their response to the difficulties in life.

Ask yourself, when you see unfairness in the world, do you act more like the whining loser? Or do you act more like the attitude-driven winner who knows there’s always something he or she can do to make things a bit better.

Devastating Truth #2: No one owes you a living.

The whiners and losers often complain that it’s not what you know but who you know that determines so much of your success and failure in life. There’s some truth in that statement, but it is definitely not the whole truth.

The fact is, many people do things that ruin their reputations and weaken their relationships. They may do such things as:

Abuse technology,
Exhibit poor communication skills,
Show a lack of professionalism,
Disrespecting others, and
Having poor ethics, judgment, and character.

And then those same people wonder why others don’t like them or why they’re not getting the promotions they think they deserve.

The truth is relationships matter, big time. People like to work with and be around people they know, like, and trust.

So how much of your time is devoted to building your reputation and relationships? Is it one of your top priorities? Or is it more of a hit-and-miss thing, that you might pay attention to if you don’t forget or have the time?

Go ahead and asses your reputation and relationships. What is your reputation brand at work and at home? Are you known for the right reasons? List five things you are doing or could do to burnish your reputation and strengthen your relationships.

Devastating Truth #4: We regret the risks we don’t take.

Everyone has a comfort zone. There’s nothing wrong with that.

But anything you want more of … such as a bigger paycheck, a stronger body, a better relationship, a more exciting career… requires risk taking. In other words, you can’t stay in your comfort zone, doing what you’ve always done, and expect things to get better.

Yes, it will take courage to take risks. Saying what you really think and feel could be a risk. Challenging someone’s ideas could be a risk. Or even speaking up at a meeting and sharing your ideas could be a risk.

I would never advocate taking stupid risks just for the sake of taking risks. Risks have to be thought out, constructive, with the intention of making things better.

But I would also not advocate living your whole life in a comfort zone, doing what you’ve always done. The result of that behavior is regret. In other words, you get two choices in life: take a risk trying to move ahead or not take a risk and have a life filled with regret.

Dr. Zimmerman’s Tuesday Tip, Issue: 1280- Four devastating TRUTHS that determine your success or failure every day!

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