Starting back in the 1940’s, psychiatrist George Vaillant followed the lives of 268 Harvard undergraduate males for several decades and concluded something you probably already know: Love is the key to happiness. Even if a man succeeded in work, amassed piles of money, and experienced good health, without loving relationships he wouldn’t be happy, Vaillant found. And I suspect his …
Can I really trust you?
As we interact with people at work and at home, we’re always asking the same question: “Can I trust you?” After all, we don’t want to work with, live with, or even be around people we can’t trust. So what does it take to trust someone or to be trusted by others? The answer is a bit more complex than …
If you want engagement, don’t keep secrets
There’s a simple truth when it comes to relationship building: If you want someone to trust you, you can’t keep a lot of secrets. People find it very difficult to trust an unknown commodity. To get more engagement with others, to build more trust with others, to push away the secrets, try these two strategies. ► 1. Kick down the …
Your credibility is on the line: Protect it now
Perhaps you remember the Ghostbuster movies. You may remember their theme song as well, a song that kept asking, “Who you gonna call? Ghostbusters!” These days, we are forced to ask a much more serious question. And that is, “Who you gonna trust?” It’s quite a challenge. In the course of my research on trust, truth, and honesty, I made …