► 6. A real leader builds win-win relationships. An impostor uses people.
That doesn’t mean that a real leader has to be buddies with everyone on the team or in the organization. That may not even be possible, let alone wise.
However, a real leader is out front, building strong, positive, respectful, cooperative, win-win relationships with lots of people. Impostors may be hiding in their offices or behind a computer, limiting themselves to a few “chosen” people with whom to interact.
Perhaps, deep down, the impostors are afraid. After all, relationship building takes time … which they may not be willing to invest. And relationship building takes talent … which they may not have or may not be willing to learn. That’s why Claire A. Murray states, “The problem with being a leader is that you’re never sure if you’re being followed or chased.”
To be a real leader, build helping relationships. As Tom Coleman, one of my clients in the National Guard points out, “Success is utilizing and sharing your experiences to assist others in achieving their goals.”
And client Ed Caldwell, the Vice President of Protective Life, talks about how the real leaders in his career set him up for success. He says, “I have been blessed with four mentors and bosses over the last 30 years who took the time to build a relationship with me, who gave me candid feedback on the differences between leadership and management, and provided specific guidance at key points in my career. Those relationships created what I consider to be the real turning points in my personal and professional development.”
Are you taking enough time to build relationships with others? It’s very important as you grow into a real leader.