► 2. Monitor your self-talk.
This point is so critical that I even tell people to write it down or print it and out and place it somewhere they will see it every day. Here goes:
Of all the communication you do, none is more important than how you talk to yourself. Your internal dialogue has more to do with your success in life than any other factor.
Organizations in general and my coaching clients in particular pay me lots of money to get that concept into their minds and out of their mouths. You just got it for free.
Of course you may be thinking I already knew that. Maybe so. But there’s a huge difference between knowing something and practicing something.
So let me ask you a question. Are you more like Statement A or Statement B?
Statement A: It’s easy for me to slip into negative thinking and talking, putting myself down … or doubting myself … much too often.
Statement B: I am self-confident and refrain from negative self-talk or negative talk in general. In fact, I’m quite good at using positive affirmations.
If you say you’re more like Statement A, please get to work on it. Change it around. Now. As the title of today’s Tuesday Tip puts it: Words Matter. Watch Your Mouth. It Will Determine Your Destiny.
I’ll even take it a step further. If you’re more like Statement A, it’s probably because you’re telling yourself something along the lines of the following poem. You’re reading it from the top down.
PRETTY or UGLY?
I’m very ugly
So don’t try to convince me that
I am a very beautiful person
Because at the end of the day
I hate myself in every single way
And I’m not going to lie to myself by saying
There is beauty inside of me that matters
So rest assured I will remind myself
That I am a worthless, terrible person
And nothing you say will make me believe
I still deserve love
Because no matter what
I am not good enough to be loved
And I am in no position to believe that
Beauty does exist within me
Because whenever I look in the mirror I always think
Am I as ugly as people say?
Now here’s the really cool part.
To get rid of your negative self-talk and to get more positive affirmations working for you, to become more like Statement B, READ THE ABOVE POEM FROM THE BOTTOM UP. It gives you a whole, new, refreshing, exciting outlook on yourself … all because of the words you use.
That’s my Christmas present to you.